Hello Yankeestonk,
I'm currently in a hotel, so my internet connection really sucks so I couldn't
notice any flash and the whole page took like 5 min to load for me..
So I took a little peek at source and will give you some advice on that.
In the header of your page structure it this way:
<head>
<title>
<meta>
<style type's> (all your styles and conditional comment thingys)
<links> (than all your stylesheets)
and when you have all those in place.. start with your scripts
<script>
</head>
This way, your styles will get loaded before any heavy loading will take in
place.
I also see that you have the constructor of SpryMenubar at the bottom of the
page, I would suggest to place it directly under your menu.
I also see that you are currently using Spry 1.4. There a version 1.6.1
available on the
http://labs.adobe.com/technologies/spry/
So i would suggest to upgrade that as well.
(didn't have time to check at your other page, but I hope this tips will
resolve some of those errors as well)